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Toddler 102: 10 Tips On How To Manage Toddler Behaviour

1. Keep toddler safe. Protect him against busy streets and the dangers that he might find anywhere. Keep pills, cleaning materials, sharp objects and other toxic substances out of reach, under lock and key if necessary

2. Give toddler freedom to grow and make discoveries in his own way. Avoid unhampered his spirit by too many rules and unrealistic expectations.

3. Give the toddler the security of an orderly life. Set daily schedule; a time for play, a time for rest, personal hygiene, bathing and potty training. If a toddler comes to realize at an early age that certain things always happen at a certain time, he knows what to expect and learns happily.

4. To make daily schedule run smoothly, parent must first discipline yourselves to adhere to the rules of the daily routine that you have established. Sometimes, unforeseen events occurs & you get off the schedule. Explain to toddler as best as you can & as briefly as possible any change in the routine.

5. A toddler is struggling to proclaim his independence. Your goal is to remain in control without appearing to do so. To do this is by offering toddler a choice, but the choice must be the one that you can accept.

6. When your toddler response negatively, what you can do is:
** Calmly ignore what your toddler said & change the subject. You might distract him by hold out his favourite toys.

**Talking about the matter, smiling, calmly & loving, you make a personal remark & giving a choice that is compatible with what you want him to do.

**You make no reference to his negative words or behaviour.

7. If you want your toddler to do something, say so rather than asking. Asking without giving possible option might lead to a confrontation.

8. Understanding behaviour whether it is operant or respondent. Operant behaviours are actions that are voluntarily, something that a toddler may do on purpose guided by consequence & that may not always positive. Respondent behaviour are involuntarily & some example are emotional reactions to pain, joy, sorrow or anger. Understand why a toddler is misbehaving & learn how to foster desirable behaviour without resorting to punishment.

9. It is difficult for toddler to share parent’s attention with anyone else. So, involve your toddler in your routine or task as much as possible. Teach some basic rules about having guest in the house or taking a telephone call by making it a game that can be practice. Be sure to praise your toddler if he remember not to bother you when you’re doing something urgent or important.

10. Toddler measures his success in terms of parental attention & approval. Success builds self-esteem. Parents can help this not only giving approval but by setting high but realistic expectations. You might, for instance, challenge your toddler to put all the toys away in 10 minutes rather than the 15 minutes it has taken so far. If failure occurs, let your toddler know that it is okay to fail. As much as you want your toddler to feel successful & acknowledge his achievements, be careful not to go overboard with prise for every little thing that he does. Share your love freely.

May 25, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Hanz's Notes, Just Toddler, Parenting in General | 5 Comments

Receiving & Giving Award

I have received 2 awards from Kakyong (update : from Farah too)…Thank you, Kakyong & Farah!
Now, I would like these Chit-Chatters to claim the award below…..

They are :-

1. Millie aka SOHOMama – A WAHM of 3 boys & 1 girl. Hot Momma indeed!Simply love her Gift basket!
2. Dr Hanim – Sharing lots of baby / toddler recipes which I’m among those collecting those recipes. An addict of babywearing too. LOL.
3. Nelcyndana – Another momma sharing the same passion of homeschooling like me.
4. Sue – Former room-mate now meet up in Cyber World
5. YatieChomeyl – Preggie mama all the way from the Land of The Rising Sun counting the big days but still hyperactive!
6. MissT – Lovely lady having a good time sharing all sort of infos all the way from abroad. Wish I know you more personally, dear!
7. Chin Nee – Hot Biz Momma of lovely twin boys & a daughter having a good time with slings & cloth diapers.
8. Azza aka azzamoro – I just love hopping to her place coz she share many, many good story definitely.
9. Mama Emma – Brilliant mom in blog make-up & very rajin in blog-hopping.
10. Amyatie – Twice want to meet her up but still postponing. Borong most of baby Hambali’s leggings & tights from her.

P/S- Jangan lupa tepek kat blog masing2 tau! Thank you!

May 25, 2009 Posted by | Award / Tag Received, Hanz's Muse | 6 Comments