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Toddler 102: 10 Tips On How To Manage Toddler Behaviour

1. Keep toddler safe. Protect him against busy streets and the dangers that he might find anywhere. Keep pills, cleaning materials, sharp objects and other toxic substances out of reach, under lock and key if necessary

2. Give toddler freedom to grow and make discoveries in his own way. Avoid unhampered his spirit by too many rules and unrealistic expectations.

3. Give the toddler the security of an orderly life. Set daily schedule; a time for play, a time for rest, personal hygiene, bathing and potty training. If a toddler comes to realize at an early age that certain things always happen at a certain time, he knows what to expect and learns happily.

4. To make daily schedule run smoothly, parent must first discipline yourselves to adhere to the rules of the daily routine that you have established. Sometimes, unforeseen events occurs & you get off the schedule. Explain to toddler as best as you can & as briefly as possible any change in the routine.

5. A toddler is struggling to proclaim his independence. Your goal is to remain in control without appearing to do so. To do this is by offering toddler a choice, but the choice must be the one that you can accept.

6. When your toddler response negatively, what you can do is:
** Calmly ignore what your toddler said & change the subject. You might distract him by hold out his favourite toys.

**Talking about the matter, smiling, calmly & loving, you make a personal remark & giving a choice that is compatible with what you want him to do.

**You make no reference to his negative words or behaviour.

7. If you want your toddler to do something, say so rather than asking. Asking without giving possible option might lead to a confrontation.

8. Understanding behaviour whether it is operant or respondent. Operant behaviours are actions that are voluntarily, something that a toddler may do on purpose guided by consequence & that may not always positive. Respondent behaviour are involuntarily & some example are emotional reactions to pain, joy, sorrow or anger. Understand why a toddler is misbehaving & learn how to foster desirable behaviour without resorting to punishment.

9. It is difficult for toddler to share parent’s attention with anyone else. So, involve your toddler in your routine or task as much as possible. Teach some basic rules about having guest in the house or taking a telephone call by making it a game that can be practice. Be sure to praise your toddler if he remember not to bother you when you’re doing something urgent or important.

10. Toddler measures his success in terms of parental attention & approval. Success builds self-esteem. Parents can help this not only giving approval but by setting high but realistic expectations. You might, for instance, challenge your toddler to put all the toys away in 10 minutes rather than the 15 minutes it has taken so far. If failure occurs, let your toddler know that it is okay to fail. As much as you want your toddler to feel successful & acknowledge his achievements, be careful not to go overboard with prise for every little thing that he does. Share your love freely.

May 25, 2009 - Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Hanz's Notes, Just Toddler, Parenting in General


  1. hehe thanks! i will remember to read this post again when afif turns 1 nnt 😀

    Comment by Farah | May 25, 2009 | Reply

  2. taks abar nak tunggu airyll jadik toddler..hehe

    Comment by azzamoro | May 25, 2009 | Reply

  3. salam Hanz,few good point yg kakyong boleh adds-on on my daily routin with anak2.. :Dsome also good refreshment for me… tahu lah kan, hari2 dok bertarzan2.. depa pun not allthe time sejak start schedule homeschool, fikri la ni dah rajin sket.. bila ibu suruh simpan menan, cepat jer buat.. sbb dia tak sabar nak men ABC depan laptop…. :Dtp aktiviti lukis2 ni anak2 kakyong mcm belum tunjuk minat lagi.. safe ke toddlers mcm anis guna krayon.. ?

    Comment by kakyong | May 25, 2009 | Reply

  4. Farah, your most welcome.Azza, they said toddler is a tough phase also, me can't wait for my baby to walk.Kakyong, safe kalau guna crayon, cari yg non-toxic & child size, besar2 tak mudah patah..x silap brand swan, pensel colour pun sizenya pun cam tu, brand ys sama jugak..hanafi dulu kitaorang bg dia crayon & pensel colour tulah, dia ketuk2 pun tak patah

    Comment by Hanz | May 26, 2009 | Reply

  5. ok Hanz, thanks for the info.. i'll take note.. & harus amik masa nak pujuk2 en ayah utk belikan utk anak2.. susah sikit en ayah ni.. dia selalu ingat anak2 tak ready lagi utk ada itu ini…Hanz, pos express dah sampai… hahahhaaa, memang hanz tulis alamat kakyong tak lengkap.. kehkehkeh.. :pno hp pun tersilap sikit (ada xtra no..).. anyway dah selamat sampai.. terima kasih byk2..

    Comment by kakyong | May 27, 2009 | Reply

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