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How Hanz reduces stress in 10 ways

Arranged randomly as handy as needed.

1. Exercise. My Smart-Shop Strider comes to its rescue.

2. Heat-up in Sauna. My portable sauna plays its part on 2010 Mission for skinny legs. Ask Aida about this sauna.

3. Chocolate indulgences. Lots of it. Sugar is good for brainstorming.

4. Coffee. Caffeine-dose. Perks me up anytime.

5. Good novel. Just dive in. Even fairy tales by Enid Blyton will do.

6. Sleep.

7. Back to Square One. Back to the Creator. Self-reflection.

8. Dance. Any music will do and with good partner like Baby Hambali & Hanafi sure works magic.

9. Cuddle. Lots of it with dear hubby while watching favourite tv show or movie.

10. Hanging-out and do something with my boys. As long as out of the house.

Hanz’s Note : How about you? How you de-stress?

Disclaimer : Picture 4 to Picture 10 obtained from Google image.

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January 30, 2010 Posted by | Hanz's Tips, Lifestyle on Beauty and Feminity, Lifestyle on Parenting | 10 Comments

Saya tak pernah sekolah tadika (Bahagian 2)

Mari sambung celoteh pasal tadika, homeschooling dan segala…

Kalau tak silap me, first time terjumpa terms homeschooling ni sekitar tahun 2004, baru jadi Mama…terjumpa website Family Place (www.familyplace.com) yang diasaskan oleh pasangan KV Soon & Chong Wai Leng. Pasangan ni ajar tiga orang anak, bekerja sendiri dari rumah dan antara pelopor homeschooling kat Malaysia ni. Sebabkan me masih lagi bekerja sepenuh masa masa tu, rasa tak mungkin boleh buat homeschooling ni. Tapi me tetap selidik dari semasa ke semasa pasal homeschooling ni. Ikutkan negara luar dah terlalu biasa dengan konsep homeschooling tapi di Malaysia agak banyak yang perlu dibaiki.

Nak tahu lebih lanjut pasal homeschooling di Malaysia ni, boleh baca karya Chong Wai Leng ni. Me sangat-sangat mengesyorkan buku ni pada yang berminat pasal homeschooling, bersesuaian dengan situasi pendidikan di Malaysia.

Tak lama tu, terlintas di hati nak mendalami pendidikan awal kanak-kanak sebab terlebih rajin dok surf website sana sini, baca majalah parenting, beli buku parenting, so why not teruskan dengan lebih spesifik? Search sana sini, terjumpalah kursus diploma yang part-time dari Universiti Malaya. Setahun setengah, kelas pun hari Sabtu jer, the whole day & habis selidik dapat tahu, kursus ni banyak hands-on. Selepas dah timbang-tara segala yang berkaitan, diteruskanlah niat tu, jadilah me pelajar ‘tua’ pendidikan awal kanak-kanak. Nak jadikan cerita lagi kena VSS pulak kat company lama dulu, jadi bolehlah me concentrate ngan study walau part-time. Dah alang-alang menyeluk pekasam, sempatlah 8 bulan, tanam anggur, me pun terus daftar kat SSM for my enterprise ,The Honeybunch Enterprise, jual VCD Kanak-kanak. My servis special tau sebab me review each VCD yang me jual. Honesty is the best policy. Diikutkan my boys banyak koleksi VCD hasil bisnes dulu dan VCD adalah antara tool yang penting me guna untuk ajar anak-anak. Trust me. It works & it fast!

Tak lama tu me pun apply kerja jadi guru tadika. Naklah aplikasikan apa yang me dah belajar,kan? Malam-malam jadi Cikgu Tuisyen ajar Matematik sampai tahap Darjah Enam jer. Happy jugak mengajar ni sebab mengajar peringkat tadika memerlukan kelainan dan Cikgu Tuisyen pulak nak bagi motivasi. Hari-hari kena ada approach yang berbeza-beza dan yang me suka part nak buat alatan pembelajaran. Masa nilah boleh tunjuk skill kreativiti. Seronok tau. Ralit bila mengadap peralatan lukisan.

Nai ikutkan lama tak lama me dalam bidang pendidikan sampai ke tahap jadi Pengetua Tadika. Tapi, me hanya boleh merancang. Me terpaksa akur dengan takdir bila me disahkan hamil buat kali kedua, sakit macam-macam, me quit dari bekerja. Sekali lagi jadi penganggur. Masa nilah me concentrate ajar Hanafi daily..betul-betul buat homeschooling. Masa jadi guru tu, homeschooling buat jugak cuma tak fully. Me memang take note perkembangan each of my boys. Ilmu yang ada hasil dari belajar dan pencarian, me cuba sebaik mungkin untuk diaplikasikan to my two boys.

Me ni macam CHAMELEON, bidang pendidikan pun boleh, bidang bisnes management pun boleh.Memang rezeki kami, bila me start balik kerja 9 to 5, me jumpa employer yang baik hati. Dapat keizinan bawa anak ke opis ni bukan senang nak dapat kat mana-mana, kan? Cuma Hanafi yang me bawa ke opis. Last year, hanya 2 kali seminggu tapi this year dah everyday. Sebabnya sebelah pagi, Hanafi akan attend kelas agama (TAFA), 9 sampai 11. Masa tengah hari, me gunakan ajar dia membaca dan menulis. Petang-petang, buat masa ni dua kali seminggu Hanafi attend kelas e-Nopi Matematik, biasanya sebelum dan selepas kelas, bila Hanafi dah bangun dari nap-time, me sambung ajar dia. Hanafi lebih banyak buat latihan yang me dah allocate untuk dia hari-hari. Tapi opis ni nak pindah soon. Tak tahulah sama ada boleh teruskan bawa Hanafi ke opis ke tidak. Me berdoa dipermudahkan segala urusan…

Bertugas di opis sekarang, internet adalah kawan baik yang paling akrab. Tak boleh bayangkan internet takde dalam hidup. Huissh! Haru! Selain kewujudan Chatterbox ni, dapat ramai kawan, jumpa pulak mereka yang betul-betul buat homeschool. Mamafiza, pengasas Malaysia Homeschool Unite (http://littlekittle.com/forum/) dan owner blog Littlekittle (http://littlekittle.com/blog/) yang famous tu, Coachsha, Sandra Rocco, Elaine, Joan Darcy dan ramai lagi pun buat homeschooling jugak.

Tambah bersemangat selepas attend Homeschool Chatter Moment anjuran Mamafiza dan Blogger VIP yang hadir, Red Mummy. Boleh tengok cerita penuh kat sini. => Homeschool Chatter Moment.

Masih banyak yang me perlu perbaiki bab-bab homeschool ni & me masih timba ilmu dari mereka yang lebih berpengalaman. Ilmu kena sentiasa ditimba. Sesunguhnya, my boys pun akan ikut dan sedang mengikut jejak langkah me yang tak pernah tadika seumur hidup. Me yakin homeschool is the best for them. Me akan perjuangkan homeschool ni sampai tahap yang me mampu.

HOMESCHOOL BEST!!


January 29, 2010 Posted by | Adore HOMESCHOOLING, Hanz on Random Matters, Lifestyle on Parenting | 13 Comments

It’s proven Baby Signing does speeds up child’s vocabulary

When I said,”Go read book,” to my Baby Hambali, immediately he would signing ‘book’ and trotted to the bookshelves and picked one of his favourite book and started reading.

When I want to distract him from continuing making a mess over my makeup , I would suggested to him,”Watch VCD ya?” and he will stopped messing around, signing ‘video’ (VCD) back to me & straight away plopped on the sofa while I switch on the DVD player.

And everytime when he wants something especially ‘Nenen’ (milk), eat and sleep, he will signed to me especially or to his Papa. Things are quite different with his elder brother, Hanafi as when Hanafi was about the same age like Hambali now, we never knew the existence of any Baby Sign.

Hanafi was a bit delayed in communicating although we are amazed with his high attention span and quick minds especially absorption of anything his mind wants to adopt. Differ with Hambali whom very expressive and with the tools which is Baby Sign, it does make a big difference. The key point is you have to be persistence and believe till one day, you are soon to yield it’s great result. This is what happening to us.

I still referred to that book and that Signing VCD that I bought is always shown to Baby Hambali. He seems glued to it and day by day, he adds more signing. The most recent one is ‘Video’ (VCD) totalling 21 Signing so far.

You probably thinking Signing is only for the deaf or only for those having speech delayance, but that is a misconception people seems to be having. You probably thinking why my family love signing so much and keen to let people know about it. Just saying we are living proof that signing speeds up our lil toddler’s vocabulary, would that convincing enough?. It close the gap of communication blunder as we know the interpretation of our child’s needs and we can pass the message to him smoothly as well. Do take note though, we are not only signing. Everytime we sign we speak the word simultaneously. That explains nowadays, sometimes, without signing, I just say the word and Baby Hambali will respond by signing the exact word that I just spoke.

Take the expert word if you still unconvinced. According to the research, babies who sign are less frustrated, have closer bonds with their parents, develop larger vocabularies, become better readers and outsmart babies who don’t sign. Mothers, especially, have a sixth sense (don’t you agree?) when it comes to interpreting their baby’s cries and body language. But a signing baby can share more specific information about what he wants or needs. Simply put, baby sign language is a way to communicate with your baby before your baby can speak by teaching him a few basic gestures or signs. It’s a way to bridge the gap between his gurgling stages to the time when he actually talk.

Another misconception people seems to be having, signing baby will delayed his speech. But, seriously, we are not having that issue. In fact, Baby Hambali seems eager to talk too.Research has shown that while babies lack the fine motor skills to speak, they do have the ability to understand and use language as early as six to seven months, provided they are given the right tools and guidance. While speech can only be acquire, averagely by research findings between 18 months to two years plus, a child ability to manipulate objects with his hands is rapidly increasing. So, why wait for your baby to speak his first words? Your child may ready to communicate now!

Can all babies do Signing?

As you know, gesturing is a natural tendency for a baby. It’s something that he’ll do even if you follow through any specific signing programme. Babies are mimics. They take their lead from the people who surround them. They learn to speak by listening to you. And they’ll learn signing by watching you.

So whether or not a baby will sign has little to do with the baby. All babies can learn to sign. How fast they’ll learn and how many signs they’ll make are the things in question. Each baby’s capabilities and milestones differs likewise their fine motor skills. So the degree of signing success a baby achieves is in direct proportion to the level of dedication and enthusiasm of his parents.


January 29, 2010 Posted by | Adore BABY SIGN, Adore NATURAL PARENTING | 14 Comments

How to tender loving care your Cloth Diaper

To date it has been 16 months plus, I have been one Cloth Diaper Mommy. Up to this point, I must say that I am happy and contented and one loyal Cloth Diaper (CD) user. Baby Hambali’s Cloth Diaper stashes is a mix of first hand (newly bought) & preloved and very happy to state that those newly bought are still in good shape.

Want to know how I care my junior’s stashes? Here are few simple tips & tricks that I did. Noted : It is up to you follow this tips & tricks at your own risk.

1. Do pre-wash your cloth diaper at least two times before first use for the brand new ones. Some cloth diaper materials like bamboo requires more pre-wash. Always check the laundry instruction tag and follow it wisely considering our water supply and our weather.

2. If it is a preloved cloth diaper, do wash it though it looks clean to you. For the Muslim mommies, do ‘samak’ [clean with dirt (tanah) & ‘doa’ recite] them. You can never be sure of the condition from previous user handling.

3. Wash your cloth diaper separately from your other clothing. Apart from cleanliness, bear in mind the material of cloth diaper is different from our normal clothing.

4. I only rotate each cloth diaper to be used once a week. I believe this could be the possible cause of the longer lifespan of each cloth diaper. Logically, the frequent usage of any fabric material do shorten its lifespan, isn’t it?

5. You can even put all your cloth diaper inside the laundry net during wash-time too. I did this few times before but I found, it became tangle & the swishy room is insufficient. You see, I recommend that you wash no more than two dozen diapers at one time, too much friction can cause pilling. Cloth diaper needs enough swishy space to be thoroughly clean.

How to store dirty cloth diaper and wash it?

1. All you need is a diaper pail or wet bag or a combination. Some moms used diaper liner to line inside the pail, but as for me, I never have one. I just toss all dirty diapers inside diaper pail & cover it.

2. I wash two days once for cloth diapers. Never soak (rendam) your cloth diaper. If you can’t stand the smell, you can squirt a few drops of tea tree oil or dettol.

3. For poopy diaper, simply dump any solid poop into the toilet and flush away the residual. Rub some soap detergent on the dirty poop area. Rinse few times under runny water. If it is the laundry day, toss it together with other diapers. If it is not, store them with the rest dirty diapers.

No worries about the faint or stubborn stain. The sun is the best bleacher to remove them. For breastfeed baby, you don’t need to brush the suede. It will come off ater you wash it in the machine. If it is a must to brush your diaper, just use old toothbrush and brush it lightly. (I never brush our diaper but some Cloth Diaper Mommas recommend this method)

4. The best part on being Cloth Diaper user is that you need less washing detergent. And you don’t need those powerful detergent complete with enzyme, bleaching, whitening, softener or fragrance. The basic and simplest detergent like Trojan wll do. As for me I used Pureen HAD (both powdery & liquid form). Take note on it’s ingredients. And I used a quarter (1/4) than the recommended usage label.


5. Once in a while it is essential to wash your diaper in moderately hot water or perform strip washing. Strip washing can be done when your diaper getting smelly or having issue on leaking.

How to perform strip washing?

1. Build up residues left by detergents, fabric softeners, diaper rash cream and other substances used to clean diapers. It may cause your diaper to leak. Stripping refers to the removal of residue on diapers.

2. To do stripping, simply hand wash your diaper with your regular dish soap (like Sunlight brand) and this gets the oils out. Just add a bit of dish soap to the fleece or suede (the inner part of cloth diaper).

3. You can rub that part a bit and turn inside out and repeat on this side. Rinse few times ensuring the water runs clear.

4. Toss in the washing machine and wash it without detergent.

5. There is another way to do strip washing. Last night, it’s about time I do this another method of stripping. All I do is mix the detergent together with few drops of Distilled White Vinegar and 1 tablespoon of Natrium Bicarbonate inside a full load laundry. And the second cycle, a few drops of Dettol to cast away horrid smell. The third cycle is simply water for thorough cleaning with no hint of urines, feces, ammonia or other unpleasant odours.

Lastly, never ever wring (perah) your cloth diaper. This will harm the elasticity of your cloth diaper.You can just used dryer or line dry under the sun.

January 26, 2010 Posted by | Adore CLOTH DIAPERING, Hanz's Tips, Lifestyle on Green Living | 11 Comments

MBP 1st Anniversary Gathering : An Aftermath


The Night Before……

The twin CHAMELEON T-shirt for Double-H
(pair it up with GREEN Cloth Diaper for the Adik & GREEN Soldier Pant for the Abang)

Some Gifts which was not yet finished it’s final touch-up when this pic snapped till wee hours…

The day itself……

Baby Hambali was a little bit lost when he finally arrived. Probably thinking, “What’s all this commotion?” Too lost till forget to dance though the Kiddies Song was blarring…

Kidnap pic from Eliss…
Kidnap pic from Azza

Me yang ‘over’ showing-off the Lucky Draw Grand Prize. Lucky you, the receiver (forgot whom) as the Gift Basket from AZ Gift Basket was totally gorgeous, Millie!

Updated : Kidnap pic from Tifa. Thanks Tifa!

Updated : Kidnap pic from Isabelle


Updated : The hilarious Find-the-obvious-Yakult Game that Baby Hambali entered. Baby Hambali still prefered the colourful balls!!


Updated : TheHoneybunch special posed under the MBP Banner

Blogger Mummies with family in tow having final group pictures before parting goodbyes.

Finally, Blogger Mummies behind the scene……………

Hanz’s Note : Despite my missing Morning Coffee Fixed & the heat, me enjoyed tremendously this event and enjoyed teaming up with Tifa, Nia, Lily, Fid, Jiji, Juan, Add & Ila for making it happen! The best part was “WE ENJOYED OURSELVES”

Hanz’s Reminder : Should take more pictures, eat more those yummy food (i was just overwhelmed) & mingle more…waaaa…

January 25, 2010 Posted by | Adore BLOGGING, Hanz in Celebrations and Gifts, Hanz in Meet-Gather, Hanz on Random Matters | 32 Comments

Saya tak pernah sekolah tadika (Bahagian 1)

Orang selalu bertanya pada saya, “Anak tak sekolah ker hari ni?”

Me akan jawab sama ada “Tak…dia Homeschool..” atau “Dia sekolah ngan Mama nyer..”. Lepas tu sama ada si penanya mendiamkan diri atau terus bertanya lagi. Kalau diam tu, tak tahulah sama ada dia faham ke tidak dengan my jawapan tapi kalau tanya camni, “Homeschool? homeschool kat mana?”

Errrrkkk…camna me nak jawab ya?

Kalau nak jawab kat rumah, dah tentu tak tepat sebab my eldest boy, Hanafi ada bersama-sama me kat opis..tapi satu persoalan yang ketara…apa yang orang faham pasal Homeschool ni? Ingat ada center buat Homeschool ker macam kelas Kumon tu? Ker diaorang Homeschool tu nama tadika?

Sebelum me bagi pendapat & kongsi info pasal homeschool, nak juga tahu pendapat Chit-chatters pasal homeschool..sila beri pendapat atau kongsi cerita atau pengalaman, boleh? Thank you in advance!!!

“Apa yang saya tahu pasal Homeschool?”

Me sendiri adalah produk homeschool tapi tak lamalah..sampai takat tadika jer…yer…me seumur hidup tak pernah bersekolah tadika…my 4 orang abang & 2 orang kakak pun sama..kenapa yer my parents tak hantar anak-anak mereka tadika? Entahlah…me pun tak pasti.

Tapi, apa yang pasti, me dah boleh baca buku cerita Bahasa Malaysia & English dengan lancar sebaik saja masuk Darjah 1. Matematik pun okay. Sampai Cikgu Matematik Darjah 3 marah sama me sebab habiskan buku latihan matematik sebelum Cikgu mulakan topik tu dalam kelas..yelah, sebab me dah buat sendiri, jadi dalam kelas, boring jer..tunggu kawan-kawan baru nak buat, jadi itu sebab me banyak baca buku cerita untuk waktu terluang tu.

Bila dah anak sendiri takdelah automatik terus nak homeschool anak-anak..tapi minat pada Pendidikan Awal Kanak-kanak bermula secara tak langsung masa me jadi Babysitter tak bertauliah.

Lepas grad dan jadi penganggur terhormat, me sampaikan niat nak jaga anak orang..sorang pun jadilah..bab jaga bayi & kanak-kanak, sangat biasa pada my mom…bila my mom dah ada cucu sendiri baru dia stop. So bila me beritahu tu, both mom & dad, cam tak percaya..Biar betul! Reti ker? Yelah..me mana pernah ada adik…tapi biasalah tengok-tengokkan anak kakak & abang…so me cakap, Insya-Allah, boleh..

Tampal iklan kat depan pintu pagar rumah membuahkan hasil. Dapatlah permintaan dari ibu muda baru habis berpantang anak sulung. Mula-mula masa bab nak mandi tu, my mom yang mandikan..takutlah..kecik sangat…sebulan kemudian baru me ambil alih buat semua termasuk mandi. Ingat lagi nama budak kecik tu.. Azalea namanya..comel sangat! Hampir setahun juga me babysit Azalea ni sebelum me mula jadi pekerja & buat part-time studies…

Sepanjang jaga Azalea ni, me suka jadikan dia macam bahan ujikaji..bukan yang mcam kat makmal tu..suka observe perkembangan dia & suka ajar dia..Satu perkara yang paling ketara, me ada gantung soft toys bentuk bintang warna kuning kat buaian dia & sebab warna kuning tu, Azalea jadi peminat warna kuning. Mak dia beritahu, kalau nak beli baju, mesti dia tunjuk warna kuning. Mak dia hairan tapi me tak cakaplah camner jadi camtu…kuat juga influence bintang kuning tu, hehehehe…..

Daripada situlah minat me pada kanak-kanak semakin mendalam & bila ada anak sendiri, me berazam, nak ajar sendiri..tapi masih tak diperkenalkan dengan konsep Homeschool ni. Me cuma merajinkan diri surf internet pasal parenting, education dan sebagainya.

Okaylah, me nak sambung kerja…nanti me cerita pulak, macam mana boleh terjebak dengan Homeschool ni…tunggu…..

January 22, 2010 Posted by | Adore HOMESCHOOLING, Hanz on Random Matters, Lifestyle on Parenting | 9 Comments

I got it!

Thought I’m gonna get this…..

but I got this instead…

Well, originally, the one that I got was what originally being announced in the contest…

Then littlemama informed here as per information by Gin & Jacqie representative that they ran out of bag they had intended to giveaway so they will replace with the gorgeous tropicana pink…

And when I picked it up in the post-office due to stupid Pos Laju (grrr..I’m fuming mentioned their suck services nowadays….dah banyak kali kena okay sampai my company’s cheque pun tah kemana, registered mail pun boleh haywired!!!), a bit frustrated-lah but no dispute since it was originally supposed to.

Enough said about Pos Malaysia!

Never mind-lah as long it is free & well-functioned and ease in organizing…I’m still happy with this one…bolehlah nak lebih organize after this…

Will do review soon! Wink!

January 21, 2010 Posted by | Hanz on Random Matters, Hanz's Collectibles and Hobbies, Lifestyle on Beauty and Feminity | 22 Comments

CUTEST BABY OF THE PLANET 2009 – Finalist


** Sticky Mode post till 20th January, 2010 **
(please scroll down for latest chat! Wink!)

Alhamdulillah…our baby, Hambali was selected as one of the 20 Finalist to compete in the ultimate Cutest Baby of the Planet 2009 among the rest 19 tough competitors. To do so, me, the Mama must accomplish the Final Challenges! The details can be found by clicking the below badge. :D

Here is my baby picture…..


Name : Hambali bin Hasrat
D.O.B : 12th of June, 2008

Caption : “…eating peanuts while reading book inside a box is shiookk!!”

To sum it up all the questions featured in this challenges, I presented it here in story. Enjoy!


TheHoneybunch Family as I fondly referred to my family bunch has one thing in common. Our names started with the letter ‘H’. So as what will be expected when knowing that I had conceived for the second time, the name must starts with ‘H’. We wished for little girl for the second round so the name that we kept in case our eldest child could be girl, the girl’s name was passed down again. Meaning, we’re a little bit clueless for boy’s name. And the name Hambali popped out almost one day after Baby Hambali borned!

Hambali was named after one of the Islam’s Great Imam; Imam Hambali, just like his elder brother, Hanafi. So we have two Imam, Imam Hanafi and Imam Hambali. Pray the name they carries do gives significant impact of greatness to their path. InsyaAllah…..

On sharing about the most memorable moment about Baby Hambali, there are too many actually. But definitely, this year, we are focusing more on his signing progress and milestones and it is definitely worth effort and cheers all of us for everytime Baby Hambali adding more ‘vocabulary’ signing to his signing record.


The first time that Baby Hambali signed was ‘Milk’ sign and to us is ‘Nenen’, a magic breastfeeding session. He did that first signed at the age of seven months by opened-closed his palm just exactly how I’ve shown to him few weeks before that with the adorable panting and cuddled close to my bosom. That was one of the MOST MEMORABLE MOMENT to us. That encourage us to keep on signing to him and our support and believe on Baby Signing were rewarded somehow. We were featured in My Child Magazine! Click here to see the once upon a time features in the limelight! => Baby Hambali and Mama in MyChild Magazine.

By the time I’m typing this, he has add two more signs which is ‘Baby’ and ‘Car’ totalling 20 signing so far. :> And yes, we are living proof that signing speeds up baby’s vocabulary.

Being a mother to two boys within 4 years gap can gives me funny headaches.Having to create a blog, sort of like keeping a diary to keep on track of their genius endeavours, simultaneously keep me sane! Ahaks! Thanks to MomBloggersPlanet, blogging means more to us as a whole family.Dear Hubby gives 100 percent support and he too agreed that the existence of MomBloggersPlanet helps me a lot in blogging.

Correct me if I’m wrong but I believe MomBloggersPlanet is the first ever, a networking platform specially created by littlemama specifically to all Malaysian Bloggers Mother to share one common thing. “We blog!” a unison echo could be heard literaly all across Malaysia from our dearest Malaysian Bloggers Moms.

Regardless you are ‘sifus’ in blogging or just a self-proclaimed rookie in blogosphere, MomBloggersPlanet is for you and from you to others. 1 year can be considered young to many situations but not to MomBloggersPlanet. Oh, I can go on and on about MomBloggersPlanet but a bit information on those features available there support what I aforementioned.

Some of them that might fancy our eyes and mind are as follows:

* Blog Directory – list your blog and connect with other moms

* Marketplace – sell your stuff or find stuff in there

* Forum – discuss issues and share your passion with others

* Blog Tips, Blog Tools, Blog Tutorial – all about the world of blogging.

Just all that? Nope. There’s plenty more. So the next time you see the below button at my left sidebar, do click it! :>

Where Moms Unite

I end this Final Challenge ‘Assignment’ with prayers may Baby Hambali emerged the ultimate #1 out of the 20 Greatest! Aamiiinn…good luck too to the rest 19 Cute Babies…

January 20, 2010 Posted by | Adore BABY SIGN, Hanz in Contest, Hanz on Random Matters, Hanz's Boys | 9 Comments

So what’s this fuss about NATURAL PARENTING?

The other day, I was being questioned by fellow blogger mates, what is actually natural parenting. It was rather time consuming to explain it to her there and then so to summarize the whole concept, I simply informed that it is all about what most natural as nature’s intended to you as a parent on your parenting style. It is oppose to what is considered as artificial and act the best that you can in natural manner thus as might be expected.

To date, Natural Parenting is more of a philosophy of gentle, healthy childbirth and growth. This approach has been closely called attachment parenting or empathetic parenting as well. It is often considered to be New Age kind of trend in parenting style but it is in fact age-old. I believe we are partly Naturalist Parent internally but we just probably unaware to the terms and characteristics.

Gone are the days where parents would totally rely on technology to the extent parents tend to ignore their gut feelings. Supposedly, we as a parent treats technology with caution and to put it simply, believing what we know our hearts to be true. I guess you do some of basic ideals or guidelines in Natural Parenting and it never crossed your mind that you are actually on doing Natural Parenting.

It means many things to many people but generally includes natural childbirth, breastfeeding and babywearing. Other practices commonly included are co-sleeping (family bed), avoidance the use of surrogates ie pacifiers, child-led weaning, natural diet (home-cooked baby food) and to some included homeschooling and baby signing and the latest cloth diapering. These are merely tools and practices that assist parent to fine tune to their child needs. The benefits of each of them would just blossom naturally to both child and parents.

I had partially outline these natural parenting guidelines under my own column : “Natural Living with Hanz” at this portal 1Superkids.

1superkidscolumnist


Have further reading under this title :

Natural Parenting : Initial steps to adopt

Natural Parenting : Basic Guidelines for further establishment

Can we choose love by accepting our baby’s legitimate human needs and responding to them with an open heart? To do so requires us to trust our babies and ultimately that we trust ourselves. Each of us is an original. Parents are not perfect but we can continually recognize the critical importance of how we behave toward our children. Children may be small in size but they deserve to have their needs taken seriously. We learn to look beneath the child’s outward behaviour to understand what he is thinking and feeling. Children have a natural love of learning and do not have to be coerced. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child. Children deserve to be treated with respect.

If you keen and comfortable with Natural Parenting concept and approach, you will likely to enjoy your parenthood at most. However, do consider balancing all aspects and factors. It could be a trend to some but it could be something oh, so natural to you. What most important the symbiosis relations between you and your lil loved ones.

“Children raised with love and compassion will be free to use their time as adults in meaningful and creative ways, rather than expressing their childhood hurts in ways that harm themselves or others.
If adults have no need to deal with the past, they can live fully in the present. ”

(Jan Hunt ; 2001)

January 19, 2010 Posted by | Adore BABY SIGN, Adore BABYWEARING, Adore BREASTFEEDING, Adore CLOTH DIAPERING, Adore HOMESCHOOLING, Adore NATURAL PARENTING, Lifestyle on Parenting | 9 Comments

The Hidden Messages We Give Our Children

Hanz’s Note : I am sharing an excerpt from my current book read, ‘The Natural Child’ by Jan Hunt (2001). Read on. And do ponder how true these situations are norm in our societies in the past & today.


Infant

What we say: “No more nursing. You’re too big for that now!”

What we think: “I’d like to continue, but I can’t stand all the criticism from my relatives.”

What the child thinks: “I’ve just lost the most important thing in my life, the long periods of cuddling & the food that felt best inside me. I must have done something terrible. I must be a terrible person.”

What we say 20 years later: “Why are you binging too much?”

Age Two

What we say: “You can’t come into our bed anymore. You won’t be lonely. Look, here’s a nice big teddy bear to keep you company!”

What we think: “Grandma thinks there’s something wrong with having you in our bedroom. I’m not sure what it is, but it’s more important for us to please her than to please you. Anyway, this teddy bear should make you happy.”

What the child thinks: “It isn’t fair! They get to cuddle with a real person. They don’t know me very well. They don’t care about my feelings. Oh well, at least they gave me this bear.”

What we say 20 years later: “I know you’re upset that Tom broke off with you, but is that any reason to overcharge your credit card like this? Will all this stuff make you feel better that someone left you? When did you become so materialistic?

Age Four

What we say : “You know you’re not supposed to hit your brother! I’ll give you a spanking you’ll never forget!”

What we think: “There must be a better way to handle this, but it’s what my dad did, so it must be right.”

What the child thinks: “I was so upset with my brother I hit him. Now, Dad is so upset with me for hitting, he’s hitting me. I guess it’s okay for adults to hit, but not for kids. I wonder what I should do when I get upset? Oh well, one of these days I’ll be an adult myself.”

What we say 20 years later : “Fight at college? Adults don’t hit people just because they’re upset. I never taught you to resort to violence!”

Age Six

What we say: “Well, this is a big day for you. Don’t be afraid. Just do everything your teacher says.”

What we think: “Please don’t embarrass me by acting up at school!”

What the child thinks: “But I’m afraid! I’m not ready to leave them for so many hours a day! They must be getting tired of me. Maybe if I do what the teacher says, they’ll like me better & let me stay home.”

What we say 20 years later: “What?! Your friends talked you into taking drugs? Do you do what everybody else tells you to do? Don’t you have a mind of your own?”

Age Eight

What we say : “Your teacher says you aren’t paying attention in class. How will you ever learn anything important?”

What we think: “If my kid never amounts to anything, I’ll feel like a failure.”

What the child thinks: “If I’m not interested in the things the teacher talks about, but I guess she knows best. The things that do interest me must not be important.”

What we say 20 years later : “You’re 28 years old & you still don’t know what you want to do with your life? Aren’t you interested in anything?”

January 15, 2010 Posted by | Adore NATURAL PARENTING, Lifestyle on Parenting, Notes on EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION, Notes on READING and BOOKS | 11 Comments