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Raising boys for first and second time

My boys, Hanafi and Hambali are 4 years in age gap. Starting from carrying them in my womb, then gave birth and caring them, they differ lots!.

  • While preggie with Hanafi, I was energetic, no qualms, no morning sickness, no craving & at later stage of pregnancy, I enjoyed buying last-minute baby items and went out on my own by taking the public transport with both hands full of shopping items. With Hambali, I stopped working as a principal at a prestigious kindy because I cannot endure the constant headache, the mood swings and the cravings of crazy-hot-spicy-food, cheese cake with apple juice and laksa, laksa, laksa…
  • It took me from 7am in the morning when my water broke to finally 7 in the evening to make Hanafi out to this world by induced labour. Intoxicated with epidural, I vomitted whole lot right after the stitching. It was not a good memory of giving birth. Hambali provided me the exact feels like having the contraction and labour pain. Ascending labour pain throughout the day finally ends at 3 in the morning and only Etonox to decrease the burst. And yes, the second time around, hubby was at my side unlike the first time.
  • Breastfeeding was not immediate for Hanafi as he was separated from me for close monitoring due to the prolonged labour so he tasted formula before finally had Mama’s Colostrum. And, I was anxious and lost for the first one month having to endure Hanafi’s crankiness during feeding and my painful swollen boobs. Hambali as if has been taught to nurse as once I put him on my chest right and ushered him to my boobs, he immediately sucked and nurse very, very well.
  • Hanafi never got the chance being cloth diapered as there was limited cloth diapers available and the awareness was not there yet. To Hambali, he has been cloth diapered almost entire of his age.
  • Hanafi never got the chance to being wear in slings although Mama did bought Ring Sling by MomsInMind from The Baby Loft and it was collecting dust as I was discouraged due to lack of knowledge. With Hambali, he had the opportunity to be in Ring Sling and SSC almost all the time.
  • Hanafi is a late-talker.Thanks to Baby Sign, Hambali speeds up when comparison made with his Abang. For words he did’nt clearly pronounced, signing lessen the guessing by us towards Hambali.
  • Both Hanafi and Hambali being exposed with learning since in the womb. Books reading, Quran recital, Classical music and Educational videos and they don’t differ much in this. But, in terms of subjects preferences, Hanafi is more technically-inclined which Maths is his favourite subject while Hambali loves dancing! Hambali can even do sommersault!
  • Hanafi is a cheesy-guy loving anything with gooeey cheese. But to Hambali, fruits is his favourite. Serve Hanafi cheese to make his day and serve Hambali banana to make him sit still.
Hanz’s Note : Despite their differences, can witness the close bonding between them. They may screamed at each other, fight over toys but when they apart, you can see they seem lost. By the time I’m typing this, I feel my eyes began to watery…

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June 24, 2010 - Posted by | Hanz's Boys, Lifestyle on Parenting


  1. i pon nak gap 4 tahun la! hahaha ade orang kate kalau anak jarak jauh2 tak rapat…tapi i tgk my husband n siblings pon jarak 4 tahun..ok je.

    Comment by Farah | June 24, 2010 | Reply

  2. that is normal hanz, mine gap 5 yrs…they were just like chalk and cheese…but yes when they were apart one will be asking about another one…my daughters both were by operations…walaupun berlainan..teach them the importance of bonding no matter what happen…from experience..

    Comment by Alysya | June 25, 2010 | Reply

  3. sweet brothers…

    Comment by amirah | June 25, 2010 | Reply

  4. so much indifference.. tapi so close kan..

    Comment by nadnye | June 25, 2010 | Reply

  5. comeiiii… bila teringat anak memang akan rasa sedih je bila takde dengan diorang… 😦

    Comment by ummi | June 26, 2010 | Reply

  6. sweetttttttttt…………… nini pun klu duk berjauhan dgn khayra mesti rs rinduuu… 🙂

    Comment by ummikhayra | June 26, 2010 | Reply

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