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HS505 : Teaching your child Empathy & Tolerance when interacting with others.

Hanz’s Note : It’s been so long I have not updating Hanafi’s HS progress. Blame it for festive season. Ahaks! Anyway, alhamdulillah, his HS is still ongoing despite this festive mood & that’s the beauty of HS. You decide when can take a break rather follow the school’s standard break!

This update however is an ongoing process and likely different from previous HS updates. Here I like to share on some guide & tips on how to teach a child about empathy and tolerance. Read on. Remember, teaching values is an ongoing process for any children.

Teaching Empathy

Empathy is how us as human being being aware of and being sensitive to another being and able to understand other people’s state and situation. To emphatise, children must be able to read emotional cues such as facial expression and body language.

I’ve drawn those several facial expression (and a lil touch-up by dear hubby) to introduce in-depth several facial expression of people. Then, I asked Hanafi to match those caricatures with real-life faces that match similar facial expression. After that, we discussed why and how those expression occurred.

Another way is through:-

* Example – Experiencing it firsthand by your child is beneficial and you can help him understand by explaining about the situation he just experienced. Develop a feeling vocabulary whereby children can learn to identify & label their feelings.

* Describing feelings to help kids read emotions by :-

Watch television – Be careful though on allowing your child which tv programme is most suitable for your child based on his age. Like us, we prefer to allow our boys watch children’s videos instead as we seldom watch tv due to time constraint.

We love Barney & Bear in the Big Blue House as it has many good features on values!

Listen to books being read – I can’t say enough there’s many books out there that you can always ‘invest’ it for your child. Siri Kisah Rasulullah, Siri Kisah Para Sahabat Nabi, Siri Kisah-kisah Al Quran, all is such a thumbs-up selection. Another alternative is from Grolier. They have a whole set on values which I highly recommend it. Scholastic too is good. All you need just a little effort to ‘look’ them the bookstore or your local library.

* Asking questions

Ask your child a real life situation for any values you want to highlight. If your child answer with “I don’t know’, you can ask your child to make their best guess. Always have an open discussion with your child.

Teaching Tolerance

This one comes in a list which me, myself & dear hubby are giving our best shot to follow do’s & don’ts. Read on!

i) Notice your own attitude. Parents who want their child value diversity can be sensitive to cultural stereotypes, they may have learned & make an effort to correct them.

ii) Remember that kids are always listening. Do not make jokes that perpetuate stereotypes though how harmless fun it is, it can undo tolerance & respect.

iii) Select books, toys, music, art & videos carefully. Keep in mind the powerful effect the media & pop cultures have on shaping attitudes.

iv) Point out & talk about unfair sterotypes that may be potrayed in media.

v) Answer kids questions about differences honestly & respectfully.

vi) Acknowledge & respect differences within your own family. Demonstrate acceptance of your children’s different abilities, interest & styles. Value the uniqueness of each family member.

vii) Remember that tolerance does not mean tolerating unacceptable behaviour. It means that everyone deserves to be treated with respect & should treat others respect.

viii) Help your child feel good about themselves.

ix) Give your child opportunities to work & play with others who are different from them.

x) Be enthusiastic about his response when he is in conversation and keep an eye contact with him.

October 2, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Hanz's Notes, Homeschooling, Parenting in General | 3 Comments

Toddler Monthly Notes: Your 16-Month-Old

Teaching the rules

* Be clear. Learning social rules, such as “Don’t bite”, “Stop making a mess” is particularly long & ongoing process. Toddlers have a short attention span, they respond best to concise & straightforward language that honestly convey your feeling.

* Let him experience consequences. Let’s say your toddler had just hurled the cereal bowl to you, rather you immediately clean up the mess, handed a napkin to your child & tell him to clean it up. It is best he can feel the effect of any havoc he wrecks.

* Redirect. If your child is making bonkers over some thing, move on to something else.Let your child go on with the tantrum & simply ignore while at the same time, you show he can have another thing or another choice to do something else. Don’t let him get his way all the time because you can’t stand the tantrum.

* Try a time-out. When all the former strategies fail, set time-out for two minutes in any designated time-out spot.Sometimes, you need two minutes away from your child too to cool off & collect yourself.

Building your toddler’s confidence

Your toddler always craves your approval. Here are few constructive ways to give it to him.

* Show him how to help you. An example is like cleaning up. Plenty of praise & positive feedback can influence child’s behaviour. It is also can give confidence boost from the feeling of mastery he achieves.

* Show him how to be resilient. Your toddler learn from how you react to certain situation when emergency or crisis arises. Show him to be quick to administer the hurt & pain like getting help rather than crying of self-pitiness. This builds his character on how to handle difficult situation.

September 30, 2009 Posted by | Child's Play, Early Childhood Education, Hanz's Notes, Just Toddler, Parenting in General | 1 Comment

My Little Bookworm :HKS Little Bookworm & MOBS Contest

How can I convince you if I emphasises that my lil tot, Baby Hambali is a little bookworm?

Perhaps some pictures & some ‘story’ might convince you….

Every nook & crannies, you can catch him reading….

He has a Book Box which he prefer more than his Toy Box.

Scene like this is a pretty norm to us. 😛

Still not enough so he intend to get more from than higher shelf!

He demanded to be read every morning in the car
so it is part of his Mama’s daily routine.

And, these are some of his books’ collections
that only
would be read to him
every single day & it is kept in the car.

Our family outing shall be incomplete
unless we visit the Bookstore

& allocate some time reading
at the children’s corner for a while

Though any books still would be pick by my lil tot,
he comes to prefer one particular book

& it became his FAVOURITE BOOK.

My Quiet Book is Baby Hambali’s Favourite Book.

Let’s take a peek inside the book…

This book is made from cloth so it is safe & durable. Bright colours & special features in each page would surely captivate any child & motivate little hands to go busy manipulating each fine-motor skills features.

Less words is good to avoid confusion for very young child who simply unable to read yet. Merely to encourage reading for baby & toddler to be familiar on books & how to handle books.

This book is zipped along it’s edge & there’s a handle on the upper middle so it can be hang in a craddle, stroller & such.

Now, let’s see how much Baby Hambali love this book…

Hanz’s Note : Apart from sharing a story of my little bookworm, this is also my submission on this contest. : MOBS & Huiwearn Kids Store (HKS) Little Bookworm Contest

Just click either the contest title or the banner below to obtain all the contest details. Interesting prizes to be win. Contest ends on 1st of October 2009. So, hurry!

September 28, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Hanz in Contest, Hanz in Reading, Hanz's Boys, Parenting in General | 2 Comments

MomBloggersPlanet Cutest Baby with TOYS Contest

Once again MomBloggersPlanet has come out its monthly Cutest Baby Photo Contest and this round, the theme for August is CUTEST BABY WITH TOY(S). As usual, Photobook Malaysia & AliceWonders are the sponsors for this awesome contest.

Let’s check it out what is IN for you that you can try your luck when participating…here’s the clues…..

Hey, stop complaining that I just pasted pictures clue for you. If you keen to know more, just click on the upper contest banner or you can click those two sponsors, have a look on the contest details… & make sure you join as well! Hurry! Still got time to grab your chance to win those coooollll prizes!!

Now, to my contest entry…..


It has been said that play is children’s work. Play gives children fun and joy, develops a child’s personality, helping them to realise their potential and experience the satisfaction of success. It opens them to creativity and imagination, develop speech, reading, thinking, problem solving and fine motor skills. It is also integral to help a child manage emotions, develop values and understand and interpret the world around them.

Each child differ in terms of all aspect of development so the needs of each child will vary greatly.Children need the freedom to change the course of their activity and develop independence in thought and ideas. Bearing this in mind,toys play an integral part in the learning process and a variety of well chosen toys help towards each child’s individual development. As a child grow, his need will change with his age and differing abilities and interests.

Do you remember how it was when you were a child? Your main activity was playing, isn’t it? You needed toys and your parents were supposed to provide that for you.

Now you are a parent and you are in the same situation as your parents years ago. You are looking for toys that your child will like. That’s why you must know how to choose the right toys.

Here is some guidelines in terms of safety on choosing toys…

Toys should meet safety regulations for age

  • Sturdy, unbreakable, not likely to break into small pieces and strongly enough for child to stand on or in.
  • Non-toxic materials
  • No sharp point or edges
  • Too large to be lodged in windpipe, ears, nostrils
  • No detachable small parts
  • No parts that could pinch or entrap fingers, toes, hair
  • No put together with easily exposed straight pins, sham wires, nails
  • No electrical parts, unless supervised by adults

When you offer a toy, don’t just let your child play by himself. Get involved in your child’s play. A parent is a child’s first and best friend.

As for myself, I did invest plenty of toys for both my boys. Baby Hambali is considered lucky as from time to time he is inheriting toys of his ‘Abang’ that Abang has outgrew. Nevertheless, I make it a point to purchase few toys for Baby Hambali, just to be fair.

How far I would go to care for Baby Hambali’s learning needs is a subjective issue. Why? As I did mentioned in above paragraphs that the needs of each child will vary greatly, it has proven that baby Hambali has develop his own preference in choosing which toys cater to his needs.

Let’s take a peek of Baby Hambali’s belongings for his work-play….

This is Baby Hambali’s Toys’ Box

This is Baby Hambali’s Books’ Box

So….which contents of which box,
do you think Baby Hambali’s prefer most to ‘work-play’?

Aha! All the time, he would take out all his books and then read from one book to another, and even from his toys’ box, he simply took the Electronic Book & ignore the rest of the toys….

On top of that every morning inside the car, Baby Hambali insisted his Mama to read his collection of favourite books and those books is stored inside the car.If his Mama forget that routine, he will start making a fuss.Later on home sweet home in nighttime,sometimes he would pick up any of his ‘regular’ book, approached his Mama who might be busy with routine household chores asking to be read.

Realizing that Baby Hambali love books so much, his Mama managed to find a great book upon by chance on one fine day….

Have a look!

The best thing about this book is like a package of book & toy together! All-in-one! Any child would not only being introduced to book or getting to love book but there’s plenty of fine-motor skills activity to make the child busy practising his skill! It is definitely adapting the Montessories approach whereby the Practical Living Skill in one of it’s curriculum.

Imagine that one day Baby Hambali will be able to button his shirt, buckle his belt & tie his shoes all done by himself! Oh, his Mama is really getting excited with this one! 😛

See how delighted Baby Hambali is
with his new “My Quiet Book”!

Name : Hambali bin Hasrat
Date of Birth : 12th June, 2008

Guess that Baby Hambali and book(s) is inseparable.
A book defined by Baby Hambali has dual role :
Book = A Book + A Toy

Hanz’s Note: This chat is STICKY MODE till 10.00 pm, 14th August 09.

August 14, 2009 Posted by | Attachment Parenting, Child's Play, Early Childhood Education, Hanz in Contest, Hanz's Boys, Hanz's Products Reviews, Natural Parenting | 12 Comments

Cooking Exposure for the Juniors

Want to introduce cooking to your lil ones?

The following are some guidelines how cooking can be done based on Concepts and Skills for each age group.

For 2 years old

* Explore food will all 5 senses
* Possess short concentration

* Active & learn by imitation

* Get frightened easily
* Require plenty of freedom to explore

* Parents should choose recipe for food of various colours

For 3 years old

* Want to take part physically, eg. kneading, stirring, rolling, etc.

* Parents should provide children with enough practice in pouring, stirring, chopping, measuring, etc.These help to develop children fine motor skills.

* Parents should start introducing the different types of food & utensils to the children

* Parents should choose recipes that facilitate sharing & cooperation among children to enhance their social skills

For 4 years old

* Recognise opposites, dry & wet, soft & hard, sweet & sour, etc.

* Like responsibilities

* Aware of the surroundings – parents can relate food to people or tell stories of the origin of certain food.

* Understand time – parents can begin teaching children how to use the timer

* Begin to understand parts & whole cut food into half and quarter

* Parents can use recipe cards to help children to develop sequencing skill

* Cooking will build confidence & foster independence in children.

For 5 & 6 years old

* Learn about food shapes
* Enjoy using measuring & weighing device

* Able to keep graphs & charts

* Proceed by include other earlier age groups

August 11, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Homeschooling, Parenting in General | Leave a comment

Teaser Updates on Hanafi’s HS at Mama’s Office (Pics Mode)

August 7, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Hanz's Boys, Homeschooling | 3 Comments

How to teach ABC creatively & effectively

How do you teach the alphabet to your child?

Singing the infamous ‘ABC Song’? Point letter in ABC book? Play the ABC videos to your child?

You are in the right track and those are the same things that I did previously with my elder son, Hanafi. Below are the tools that I’ve used for him and currently using it to Baby Hambali too.

Some ABC books.

I also would like to recommend getting a hold of this well-loved and recommended book in ABC lesson. It is available in videos too and boy, I myself enjoy watching the videos.

Chicka Chicka Boom Boom

Have a look why I emphasise on it.

It features both big and small letter with catchy rhymes
and captivating illustration!

Some ABC videos

However, do extend these common methods and consider getting other ‘tools’ in example as follows for effective imprint of alphabet in your child’s mind.

ABC Poster

ABC Floor Mat

Hand-eye coordination toys

Magnetic Alphabet

I do not have to work hard on alphabet teaching to Hanafi as for having those tools available for Hanafi all the time, it does provide significant impact on him. Children learn best by repetition and sight. By age 2, Hanafi did not only can recite the ABC but he knows both big letter and small letter by heart. I just let him manipulate these tools on his own along the common methods I mentioned earlier.

When I did self research prior to my Early Childhood studies, I discovered few interesting activities that can be done for this type of lesson as well. Missed out these with Hanafi but will do it with baby Hambali plus my earlier methods.

Read on…

A selection of holistic activities to help give a child a strong imprint of the shape of letters in their mind’s eye.

1. Body letters

Ask your child to make themselves into the shape of given letters ie. “make yourself an s”. Child control his body into what he think the letter looks like.

You can model this easily by showing them an ‘x’ by standing with your feet apart and your arms in the air and wide apart. Or you can show a ‘T’ by standing with your feet together and your arms stretched out to the sides.

2. Tracing letters

Ask a child to shut his eyes and with your fingers, trace a letter on their hand or back. He must tell you what this is. He can play the games in pairs. There may be giggles as it is ticklish, but this activity requires the child to see the letter in his mind’s eye.

3. Air writing

Before writing letters on paper, get your child to stand up and you stand up at the front of your child with your back facing him. Using your writing hand, draw a big letter in the air saying its sound at the same time. Get your child to copy you, moving his arms to form the letter in the air.

4. Letter sculptures

Give out plasticine (soft modelling clay) to your child. Ask your child to make certain letters (or words). He has to concentrate on the shape of the letter and its proportions.

Your child can choose his own letter and make a big one out of plasticine or card, then stick it on a large piece of card. Give out magazines and newspapers and let your child look and find either words or pictures of things that begin with the same letter. He can cut these out and create a collage with his big letter.

August 5, 2009 Posted by | Child's Play, Early Childhood Education, Homeschooling, Parenting in General | 16 Comments

HS504 : Optics exposure & learning lenses purpose

I am getting more Science learning of late, carefully planned for Hanafi eversince his previous Kindergarten failed to expose Science in their syllabus (one of the reason we stopped his schooling).

Hanafi (even baby Hambali) always fascinated with his (their) parents wearing glasses. I told Hanafi that both his Mama & Papa is far-sighted (rabun) & it is very crucial for us to wear a SPECTACLE so that we can see better. As for his Mama, daytime wearing CONTACT LENSES of course which already being explained to him the functionality still the same like Spectacles. This point onwards, I told him that it is important for him to takecare his eyes well so habit like watching television very near and reading in the dark is a complete No-No.

Later, I found a great idea from Mommy2H on using MAGNIFYING GLASS, so I printed out those magnifying pictures from the former site & gotten a cheap magnifying glass.

Here’s what Hanafi been doing exactly following what featured in the Mommy2H site. There were 2 sets of pictures, one is the normal pic & the other is microscopic size, so what a child must do is to use the magnifying glass to peer at the tiny pic & find the same pic by the normal size. Match it!

We moved on to BINOCULARS function and from our recent outing, Hanafi managed to grasp the idea of using a binoculars.

Next is KALEIDOSCOPE. I think this is the apparatus Hanafi enjoyed most in the Optics group. We got the Kaleidoscope from one shop selling Early Childood & Educational items in The Summit.

Lenses are everywhere & have a pupose. Ask your child if he can figure out what lens is use to…

1. Show a big picture on a screen?
2. See things that are far away?
3. See very small things?
4. See in the dark?
5. Capture images of things to see later
6. Correct poor vision?

Answer Options:
a) Telescope
b) Night vision goggles
c) Camera
d) Projector
e) Glasses
f) Microscope

As always, find every opportunity to expose Science learning for your lil one.

July 27, 2009 Posted by | Early Childhood Education, Homeschooling, Just Preschooler | 11 Comments

The Settled Baby : Four to Twelve Months

Excerpt from the book :-“Smart Baby, Clever Child”
written by Valentine Dmitriev, PH.D

As your baby enters this new phase, it is important for parents to keep up with their baby’s rapid changes & advancement. His independent mobility is increasing and so he begins paying more attention to objects in his environment. He is developing new awareness.Hand-eye coordination improves and actions become more & more deliberate. With this is mind, there are 3 goals to aid in this new stage of development.

First Goal: Plan ways of promoting your baby’s mental & fine-motor attainment to provide him with the novelty of new & interesting playthings. Playthings need not not be limited to store-bought educational toys but suitable household things would be greatest value too.

Second Goal:- Give your baby an opportunity to learn how to initiate & carry out his own entertainment.Accomplish this by giving your baby independent playtime on a mat & by giving him 2 new playthings every third or fourth day (or when your baby is no longer interested in the toys at hand). It is tempting for parent to surround a baby with a heap of toys, however be reminded that too many things or stimuli presented all at once will defeat your intention to provide a learning experience for your baby.When an infant is satisfied with what he has learned from one particular toy, he will no longer handle it. That will be your cue to bring out something else. However before your baby’s interest begins to lag, you can step in & show him other new ways of playing with the toy.

Third Goal:- Add to your baby’s self discovery-to broaden his horizons by playing with him & his toys. You can show him that he can clap his hands or move his body to music.

Tip:- When you first give your baby a new toy, simply hold it out & tell him what it is. For example, show the toy to him & say,”Look, here’s a bunny rabbit.” If he reaches for the toy, give him the toy & repeat with a smile, “Bunny rabbit.” If your baby does’nt reach for the rabbit, simply lay it on his lap if he’s propped up, or place it on the floor beside him & move away. Allow your child to discover the toy on his own. When it appears that he no longer knows what to do with the rabbit, step in & show your baby other ways that he can play with the toy.

Sample Activity Schedule

Daily Gross-Motor Activities & Fine-Motor Activities

1.Pull to sit. Hands held, after each diaper change.

2.Scooting.Scooting is an activity that strengthens a baby’s back & legs. It is done while on the stomach, & consist of pushing forward or backward by using the legs & knees.It gives mobility enabling him to reach toys.Three to five lunges, until baby is able to creep or push himself forward without help.

3. Roll from back to stomach, stomach to back.

4. Head & Chest lifts when prone.Place baby on his stomach, better yet, use the Roll-to Stomach maneuver to get him into the prone position. Use enticing toys, bells or puppets to encourage baby to lift his head & chest up, supported by his folded elbows or extended arms.Interact with baby in this position from three to five minutes, 2 to 3 times a day.Once baby has mastered rolling over from back to stomach, it will no longer be necessary to practice head & chest lifts. Baby will be lying & playing in a prone position as a natural result of being able to roll over from his back.

5. Propped sitting. Allow baby to remain seated with toys, or when you play with him & his toys for ten to thirty minutes or as long as he appears to be happy in that position. Repeat 2 or 3 times a day.

6. Weight-bearing stance. Place baby in an upright position, feet planted firmly on the floor.Hold him up for one to 2 minutes. Repeat 2 to 3 times a day.

7. Playtime on the mat. Baby plays alone 10 to 30 minutes
or longer if he is happy;2 to 3 times a day, morning, after midmorning nap & perhaps in the evening.

8. Peek-a-boo game. Baby & parent play this game once a day.

9. Mom or dad toy playtime with baby. Baby engages in playtime with either parent for 5 or 10 to 15 minutes, 2 to3 times a day.

10. Looking at book pictures. Baby & parent engage in this activity for 5 to 10 minutes, once a day.

Hanz’s Note: Me up this chat atas request Mama Afif aka Farah lildreamz. My method sepanjang both my boys masa baby senang saja as my most important tools for them is books & educational vcds…you can have a look on that as well…& include your baby as much as you can in your daily activities…kalau susah nak pegang nak buat kerja, itulah bagusnya if you wearing your baby (babywearing).Hope this shorten notes would be helpful to those yang baru dapat baby (wink!) & are having baby about this age.Happy playing with your baby!

July 24, 2009 Posted by | Child's Play, Early Childhood Education, Just Baby, Parenting in General | 6 Comments